In the long-documented and discussed time in our lives when we’re discovering who we are, there comes with it a time of discovering how we think, view the world, and define our relationships. We find confidence not only in ourselves, but in our place in this world. We begin branching out from the foundation laid beneath us in childhood, and we explore ideas and possibilities until we find what most resonates in our souls.
So where does a confidence in God come into this? In this journey of self-discovery, how do we feel comfortable with ourselves, and how can a confidence in God help us? Being self-conscious holds us back and keeps us guarded. It can even hold us back from fully connecting with our spiritual selves and recognizing God’s role in our lives.
The struggle is real.
Let me tell you, confidence takes time. Lots of it. I believe we can’t find genuine confidence until we really begin to understand our personalities, the good and bad parts and everything in between. It’s really just a part of the coming-of-age process, so don’t expect to wake up born super confident.
The same goes with confidence in God. We need to be open to getting to know Him as much as we humanly can. We have to explore the depths of His nature, His intentions for His people, and all He is capable of. God is infinitely complex and mysterious, but I believe every religion on earth is created in an attempt to understand Him. There’s no right or wrong way to do it: we must simply try and be open to where He guides us.
We’ve heard plenty of times, “Fake it until you make it.” Pretend you know what you’re doing, and eventually you will manifest that into your reality. This same mentality goes toward faith: if you’re willing and open to God, He will read the intentions of your heart and lead you to Him. Just like blind faith and trust, even when you have no clue what you’re doing or if you’re “doing it right,” you’ll end up growing more accustomed to God’s voice and calling.
Why is it important?
Hebrews 4:16 says, “Let us then with confidence draw near to the throne of grace, that we may receive mercy and find grace to help in time of need.” When we feel unsteady on our feet, we have two options: turn to God to help us find stable ground, or turn away from Him and try to seek it ourselves.
I think of my own struggles with confidence. My negative emotions toward who I am, pinpointing every physical and mental flaw, build a wall that blocks me from being fully present with God. I isolate myself in all capacities, “me against the world.”
On both sides of the self-esteem spectrum, there’s complete insecurity, and there’s arrogant pride. We’re either too focused on our flaws or our accomplishments to see Him. Our minds end up preoccupied. It’s not until we expand our perception to a larger scale, seeing how we fit into the unique fabric of the world, do we then find space within our own lives to really be present with God.
Ministering His Word.
Another important aspect of confidence in God is ensuring we best represent Him as we’re meant to do. How we choose to live in His image usually varies among individuals, but once we know ourselves better and we know what we believe, religious or otherwise, we can feel confident in our faith and knowledge enough to share it with others.
Philippians 1:6 says, “And I am sure of this, that He who began a good work in you will bring it to completion at the day of Jesus Christ.” Admittedly, there’s many parts of life we as humans cannot be sure about. We don’t have the power to predict the future or prevent every mistake we’ll make. What we can do is take action where we can and have confidence in God that He’ll take care of the rest. We’re confident in what God means to us.
And if others ask us questions or challenge our faith, we should be confident in what we stand for. We shouldn’t expect to have all the answers, but we should be confident in our roles as mouthpieces and servants for the Lord. By being kind, loving, and humble, that itself speaks more words than we could ever vocalize.
What true confidence means.
It’s not feeling like you need constant approval and reassurance to accept yourself because God is with you and you were made in His image.
It’s knowing your strengths and weaknesses and not being afraid to admit them because God made you this way.
It’s not being afraid to let down your guard sometimes and be vulnerable because it’s our right to be unapologetically ourselves.
It’s putting yourself out into the world knowing you might get hurt because God will use people and experiences to teach you.
It’s embracing constant change and growth because they’ll end up leading you back to Him and His purpose for you.
It’s knowing that if everybody for some reason abandoned you, you’ll stay strong knowing He is always there.
How do we get to this point? The journeys toward confidence in God and in ourselves tend to converge: trusting who He is reflects back on how we fit into that picture spirituality paints. Proverbs 3:26 says, “For the LORD will be your confidence and will keep your foot from being caught.” There will always be times of self-doubt, where our foot gets stuck in mud puddle of questioning everything and beating ourselves up, but God is a surefire way of getting ourselves out of that rut and back on both feet, firmly grounded in Him.
Spend time alone. Spend time with others, even others you might not expect to be with. Recognize your strengths and passions and follow them. But also realize your weaknesses. Try new things and step outside your comfort zone every once and awhile. Take care of yourself. Be your own biggest support system. You don’t have to love every aspect of yourself by any means, but accept wherever you are at. Don’t beat yourself up for every little mistake.
On top of all of this, find time for God. Pray to Him, and know that He’s listening. Seek out ideas and knowledge and find what speaks to you. Go to different resources, different people, different religions, and ask yourself, “What do I believe?” Don’t force yourself into what you should believe and feel. Take your time and don’t rush this process, one that will likely be ongoing and evolving throughout your life.
If you needed the reminder today: you are an amazing human being. You are so valuable. You have a purpose for being where you are at in this very moment. You are loved and appreciated. You are capable of fantastic things. You are on this earth for a reason.
And know that with every step you take, God is with you.
Take care, and keep the faith. -Allie