This world isn’t exactly prone to making people feeling good enough.
There’s always more we need. More we should be. A way we are lacking and lagging behind the rest. And if you don’t notice it yourself, chances are that someone will tell you.
Of course humanity isn’t perfect. We are flawed and sinful and bound to make some mistakes along the bumpy road of life. However, despite all this truth, there’s truth that rings even truer: we are always good enough for God.
Between our spiritual and public lives, it can feel like we’re being pulled in opposite directions with conflicting messages. Tapping into His Word and feeling good enough for God isn’t easy, but it is possible. We can nip the nagging doubts and insecurities in the bud. All it takes is some self-reflection and prayer.
the struggle is real.
Let me tell you, feeling good enough for God, let alone myself, has been a constant battle. Whether it’s life’s changes and circumstances, or simply logging onto social media, I can always find a reason to despair.
Think of what everyone else my age is doing! Or how much “better” or “prettier” others look when I make critical comparisons. Am I using every moment productively, or am I just lazy and falling behind in every area?
Especially since graduating college, a huge issue I’ve discussed in the past is feeling like my present lack of direction and specific career path equates to inadequacy. Rather than giving myself grace and appreciating what I am doing, I nitpick every flaw, every moment I’m taking things slow. Not only am I frustrated and anxious, but people who know me are also likely tired of hearing me repeat the same worries on a loop.
I’ve noticed that when I’m in these dark places, I struggle to connect with God. My spiritual life seems to take the back burner as I try to grapple with my inner demons alone. I feel lost, hopeless, isolated…any negative emotion, all piling on at once. I almost feel ashamed to then go to God feeling utterly broken.
But we aren’t meant to take it all on alone: revisit Psalm 23 as a testament to this. “Even though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil, for you are with me; your rod and your staff, they comfort me…” The fears that burden our minds dissipate in His presence.
Part of not feeling good enough comes from mental illness, suffering from chronic depression and anxiety. Another part is getting lost in my own thoughts and negative societal influences. In my weakest moments, I forget to turn to God and His wisdom.
With every doubt that pops into our heads, God has an answer to ease our minds. When we aren’t feeling good enough, it’s easy to assume God won’t even want to hear from us. There are far better people out there who sin and make mistakes less, that are more faithful and “godly.”
God is always here for us. He’ll take us whenever we accept Him. He’s opening His arms to us without judgment. 2 Corinthians 5:18-19 proves this point, that He won’t pull us apart and nitpick every sin: “All this is from God, who reconciled us to himself through Christ and gave us the ministry of reconciliation: that God was reconciling the world to himself in Christ, not counting people’s sins against them. And he has committed to us the message of reconciliation.”
When He created us, He did so in His image. We all know that God embodies all the world’s strength, compassion, wisdom, and perfection. Since we aren’t God, we won’t ever be “perfect,” whatever that means. Where we feel lacking and broken, God provides.
We’ve each been brought into this world for a purpose: to bring God’s presence directly to others. Maybe our occupation and career path and body image aren’t up to snuff. As the Smiths sang, there’s a light that never goes out. That light is God. He is always within us. Life is constantly changing and buckling beneath us, but that light is steadfast.
Ephesians 2:10 says, “For we are His workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared beforehand, that we should walk in them.” God knows us better than anyone on earth ever will, and He always holds us in the highest esteem. He loves His children, considering them more valuable than anything money could buy. As our rawest, most-flawed selves, we’re worthy of Him.
changing the inner dialogue.
Whenever we feel the doubts creeping back in, trying to deceive us, we must equip ourselves with God’s truth. We must be reminded that feeling good enough for God is a guarantee. It’s all about letting God’s love enter every crevice.
Before spiraling down that pit of despair, slow down. Really listen to your inner dialogue. What lies have spun into your thoughts? What people or inner voices are steering you away from God? Pinpoint what’s bringing you down, and then reflect on how God would respond to it.
For example, let’s take the message that we’re wasting away our precious time by not actively pursuing a specific vision. Thoughts are just thoughts, but heaven knows they can become blown out of proportion. “You’re falling behind everyone else! You’re not doing well enough! Stop disappointing others and yourself!”
God could tell you otherwise. He has planned out your path, and even in a time of stagnancy, you have every right to feel good enough for God. You’re still worthy of love. You’re still making a greater impact than you realize.
Habakkuk 2:3 says, “For still the vision awaits its appointed time; it hastens to the end—it will not lie. If it seems slow, wait for it; it will surely come; it will not delay.” His timing is perfect. He’s preparing us for remarkable things. Questioning ourselves, in turn, questions God. If you lack your own answers, then let God help.
Try this with any of your own insecurities, the nagging thoughts making you feel not good enough for God. No matter what life throws at you, God perseveres. His love and mercy lives on forever. It’s not a practice that comes easily; give yourself grace and patience as you learn to become more conscious of His voice. You won’t be perfect, as with anything, and that’s okay. It’s all about feeling good enough for God and yourself more often.
How do you combat the insecurities life throws at you? Does feeling good enough for God seem difficult? Let me know in the comments below.
Take care, and keep the faith. -Allie